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Jennifer Beste

Print publication date: 2018

Print ISBN-13: 9780190268503

Published to Oxford Scholarship Online: November 2017

DOI: 10.1093/oso/9780190268503.001.0001

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Accepting Our Human Condition and Unique Calling

(p.155) 6 Self-Love
College Hookup Culture and Christian Ethics

Jennifer Beste

Oxford University Press

Johann Metz shows that the second aspect of becoming fully human, self-love, has at least two components: (1) our willingness to accept compassionately the limitations and vulnerabilities of our human condition, and (2) the courage to discern and live out our unique calling and become our authentic selves. This chapter suggests that behaviors at college parties (as described in chapter 1) are attempts—not always conscious—to avoid self-acceptance, emptiness, and vulnerability. It then explores how to accept and respect oneself, risk vulnerability and authenticity, and claim one’s unique purpose and vocation so as to experience joy and fulfillment. The author suggests that membership in a supportive community and commitment to a spiritual practice are especially helpful in encouraging discernment about authenticity and life’s purpose.

Keywords:   conformity, fulfillment, fully human, Jesus, poverty of spirit, Johann Metz, Parker Palmer, self-acceptance, self-love, vocation

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